Debunking Blogging Myths Part 1

Debunking Blogging Myths Part 1

I suspect many of us have heard at least some of these blogging myths that get trotted out on a regular basis, especially to those of us that blog.

I have heard a few myths just lately so I thought I would do some research and was actually surprised by how many there are rolling around. So this post wasn’t too lengthy, I decided to write 2 posts on the subject. This one is Debunking Blogging Myths Part 1.

Following this one is Debunking Blogging Myths Part 2. I admit the second title is not very original but it serves its purpose.

BLOGGING:

Isn’t A Real Job

So compared to a 9-5 job working for someone else, I suppose it doesn’t seem that way. blogging is a jobYou don’t clock on and off but that’s because you set your own hours. I think it may be the fact that you set your own hours that makes people think that way.
If you’re working hard and getting paid for it, it’s a job. And that’s what blogging is, hard work!
Nevertheless, this is often a blogging myth, one to be ignored. Blogging is a real job.

Doesn’t make M0ney

It’s not a regular wage until you have become well established, even then its not a certain income. Things like the pandemic took away many a blogger’s lifestyle and earnings.  Yet before many travel bloggers were big earners, it just took a virus becoming a Pandemic very quickly to destroy that income. However, there were many who’s blogs really took off BECAUSE of the pandemic.

It does & doesn’t

Cycling, home gyms, exercise for all ages, healthy lifestyles etc. These and many more became very popular as traffic increased dramatically and sales followed.
There are also many aspiring bloggers who don’t make any money at all yet for a variety of reasons. There are also bloggers who only make small amounts of money. Earnings depend upon effort put in, consistency with posting, interesting topics and of course time to get established
If you don’t believe me, you only got to read some income reports from bloggers. Some of them make $50,000. Per month.

Only does well in popular niches

Some niches or topics have a lot of well established websites and well known bloggers that already have built up trust, so people go back.  Plus some are in a niche where people want to buy.
For example, people that read beauty blogs are literally looking to shop for products. And people who read recipes need the ingredients to form the recipe. So it’s easy to link to these products and make money when people use the link to buy it.
But you could be in either of those and not make any money at all.
The pandemic has shown that being popular one minute doesn’t mean you will stay that way without effort.

A less well known niche can make money because they don’t have the same competition but again it takes work.

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Just because you’ve got people reading your blog doesn’t mean it’ll be profitable. There are bloggers with 100,000+ views a month that don’t make anything. Because they haven’t monetised it! I know this for a fact as 1o years ago I had a blog but knew nothing about monetising it. It was very popular and I blogged daily, eventually I let it lapse. If only I had known then what I know now.

More page views can mean you make money from adverts and affiliate links. So in that case more traffic/page views can mean more money.
You can still make money with hardly any page views, and have many page views and make nothing.

Is Free

Yes it can be free if you start a blog on a free platform like blogger. You can still monetise the blog but you don’t have the freedom to alter it the way you can a wordpress website/blog.

If you go for a wordpress website there are some platforms that still have a free basic site. If you want to be serious about blogging, make money and eventually live off it, then you may want to get more freedom to arrange your blog the way you want it to be.

That introduces costs with a domain name and website hosting. Some products you review you will buy first. You need a decent camera for photos. If you wanted to know more you could do a blogging course to get you up  and running faster. That may entail cost too, although there are free courses if you go looking.

Is Easy

This blogging myth is quite common for those who know nothing about it. From an outsiders point of view just sitting on your computer looks easy. They don’t see the research, the time spent building social media or the constnt teaking to improve the blog. Then of course there is so much to learn about SEO and keywords to optimise your blog. It is a constant learning curve.

You need to blog regularly to keep the content fresh and keep your readers coming back. For some the words flow freely but others struggle with ideas for new posts or just with putting their thoughts in to words.

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Once I got the hang of it, I loved writing my first blog but it was time consuming. I wrote about my own crafts and would showcase other crafts by having a different theme each day. Searching for different crafts, checking with each person that it was okay, writing it, adding pictures and then of course adding it to all the social media platforms so people would know there was a new post available. In retrospect, the writing was the easy part, it was everything else that took up much of the time.

Bloggers need to be photographers, graphic designers, web designers, social media managers, and a heck of tons more. So blogging myth number 2 debunked- bloggers don’t just blog.

Conclusion

Blogging is not an easy option at all. When you work for yourself you tend to put in many more hours than you ever did working for someone else.

It’s not easy at all but it is very satisfying when people come to read your post and they find it useful. Perhps they learn something or maybe it makes them want to try whatever you just wrote about. We are here to help people to find answers.

To what? Anything really. Problems, curiosity, the need to learn more, perhaps something obscure they are looking for. When people go looking on Google, they type in their queries. Then Google brings up the variety of sites that have a matching keyword to what they want to know.

Then we regularly check the numbers and if they rise, however slowly, it is gratifying and exciting.

I LOVE it!

My Recommendation!

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Rank Math Plugin Basic Review 2021

Rank Math Plugin Basic Review 2021

So what is the Rank Math plugin and what is it for? It’s a Search Engine Optimization plugin for WordPress websites that makes it easy for anyone to optimise their content (blog posts). Does that answer the question? No? That’s why I am doing this Rank Math Plugin Basic Review 2021.

Why is it basic? To whet your appetite for more. Too much information all at once can be offputting, so I am showing you why it is so good without overloading you with detail.

Why I care!

I came across it early last year and decided to try it out on one of my websites. Why? Because it seemed like a good idea as SEO has always been a bit of a mystery to me. Well, we can’t always pick up everything all at once.

My websites all had the ‘all-in-one-SEO plugin’. Maybe I could have done more with that but I have no idea what and now I don’t need to learn about it.

Though to be honest, SEO is still a mystery to me, I find it complicated. But luckily for me, I discovered the Rank Math plugin and downloaded the free version to test out on one website. It wasn’t long before I added it to all my websites.

I liked it so much and was so impressed that I went for the multi-site Pro version! I have to say, that for me, it was worth every penny.

Anything that helps my business is wonderful in my book!

Want to know more?

I am not very technical at all. Things that are complicated I devour in small bite size pieces to integrate it better. What has that got to do with the Rank Math plugin? Read on!

I was amazed by it. I left everything on the default settings mainly because I didn’t have a clue what I was doing. Then I started looking at my posts because you should go over older posts anyway to tweak and improve them. Freshen them up as they say.

Well, it gave me suggestions for improvements! I like that. The more things I changed, the more all these green lights appeared.

It gives an SEO score on each post and for the first time my score had gone up a lot. I tweaked titles and added the focus keyword into the post more.

The score turned green!!!! How cool was that?

It took time but I optimised all my posts until I had a green light on each for the first time..

How it all Began

Lots of the people at Rank Math were well known bloggers before they started Rank Math & MyThemeShop. Their experiences in blogging was the catalyst that pushed them into creating Rank Math. During their various blogging careers they used a great variety of products. Despite many of then being first class, they never found a perfect solution for SEO.

There are many SEO plugins for WordPress, as you probably know, that have lot’s of features and are well made. However, none of them seemed complete, each seemed to have something missing.
Around three years ago, they decided to repair the matter once and for all. They began to form the last word SEO plugin for WordPress which may dwarf the opposite SEO plugin in features, usability, and speed. Rank Math was born.

Their goal has always been to help fellow bloggers around the world with high-quality WordPress products and creating this product was important to them.

Let’s look at a Summary of the Rank Math FeaturesRank Math Plugin Basic Review 2021

Over three years, they created and perfected Rank Math to be the last word SEO plugin. Rank Math is more advanced, has more features, and is more powerful than other SEO plugins.

Rank Math

  1. Solves SEO problems that you simply didn’t even know you had. for instance, Rank Math has an in-built keyword rank tracker which tracks your post’s position within the SERPs. Not only that, but Rank Math also emails you when your posts first start appearing within the search results. this provides you an unprecedented advantage to optimise your posts around new keywords.
    Rank Math does all that while saving you money that you would have paid out for a rank tracker.
  2. Migrating from other SEO plugins is very easy. Rank Math can copy all the specified settings from your existing plugin during one click. you’ll start taking advantage of Rank Math’s power just a few minutes after installation.
  3. Advanced SEO Analysis – Rank Math features a sophisticated SEO analysis and testing tool. This tool performs quite 20 SEO tests on your website and recommends you the only settings to understand the foremost traffic.
  4. Setup Wizard – The plug in automatically configures itself once it is installed. The installation and setup wizard helps you to connect to the Rank Math site via Google so it works straight away.
  5. Advanced Redirection Manager – Rank Math allows you to found out and manage many redirects during a few clicks. Importing and exporting redirects is simple and quick, and you will set individual redirects as 301 or 302 redirects.
  6. 404 Monitor – Broken links are hard to hunt out and fix. Rank Math’s advanced 404 monitor finds all the 404 links on your site and allows you to redirect them in just a few of clicks.
  7. Bulk Title and outline Editor – Keywords within the title have a big SEO impact. Rank Math’s bulk editing feature allows you to update all of your post’s titles and descriptions in bulk, saving you time and money.search engine verification. Rank Math Plugin Basic Review 2021
  8. Search Engine Verification – Rank Math allows you to verify your website with multiple search engines and social networks right from your WordPress Admin.
  9. Google Webmaster Integration – Rank Math integrates with Google Webmaster tools to fetch your website’s index status and other ranking data. This data is then presented in a simple to know way, right inside your WordPress admin.
  10. Automated Image SEO – Properly optimized images are essential for image SEO. Rank Math automatically appends images with ALT tags and Title tags to reinforce your image SEO.
  11. Multiple Rich Snippet Support – Using the proper meta tags has never been easier with Rank Math’s native Rich Snippet Support. Rank Math can add news, article, blog, recipe, video and more meta tags to your content with the press of a button.
  12. News Sitemap – If you run a news site, you’ll love the news sitemap feature in Rank Math. This feature creates a Google-compatible news sitemap and allows you to submit it in just a few of seconds.
  13. Video Sitemap – Rank Math’s video sitemap feature helps in getting your videos indexed quickly. in only a few of clicks, Rank Math can create a compatible video sitemap which you’ll undergo multiple search engines.
  14. Local SEO Optimization – Ideal for local businesses as they can take advantage of Rank Math’s Local SEO optimisation features. Using these features ensures that your local business website ranks in Google for your intended keywords.
  15. WooCommerce Support – The wonderful features of Rank Math aren’t limited only to blogs. E-commerce websites can also leverage Rank Math to optimize their product pages for more traffic with the WooCommerce integration.

What do I think?

I love this plug-in unreservedly. It has a set up wizard that takes you through the process step by step, simple and easy, just the way I like it.

It has made a massive difference to my website as it leads me through the different things I need to check before pressing publish.

When I first got this and it showed me SEO scores, I had 20-30 if I was lucky. Being in the green was a far off dream.

As I worked through old posts using it the scores gradually changed from red, to yellow and then to green which was celebration time.

The first few took the longest, as always, but I soon got the hang of it and the rest were a bit quicker. It wasn’t long before I put it on all my websites and I have never regretted it. After having so much of an improvement I decide to go for the PRO version and I have to say it is even better.

Conclusion

This is, in my opinion, an excellent plugin. This helped me enormously to get my SEO up to scratch on published posts and on all the posts I have written since. Anything that aids  my success and saves me time is good.

If you want to improve your SEO alone, this is worth getting for that but there is so much more to it. With the Pro version the features are continually growing and improving. Plus for now, with the PRO version, you get to use it on as many websites as you like.

I suspect in the future you may need to pay a higher price to use on more websites, a good reason to get it now.

Although, I will say, try the Free version first, after all what suits me, may not suit you. Having said that though, I think you will probably love it as much as I do.

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Breaking through the Glass Ceiling

Breaking through the Glass Ceiling

Is there a glass ceiling? Is it real? What is the Glass ceiling and is breaking through the glass ceiling possible?

Why don’t we find out what it means first?

Definition of Glass Ceiling from SociologyDictionary.org

  • An artificial, unseen, and often unacknowledged discriminatory barrier that prevents otherwise qualified people such as women and minorities from rising to positions of leadership and power, particularly within a corporation.

There we have it, an unseen barrier to prevent people from rising higher than others think they should.

The pastBreaking through the Glass Ceiling

In the past, this was a real occurrence happening to many people, deliberately to discriminate against some parts of society. In recent years there have been laws to prevent discrimination, especially in the areas of age, gender and skin colour.

An example of discrimination that no longer happens: Over 40 years ago my husband and I applied for a mortgage. We were told that only his wages counted because I would leave work to have a baby. Though this was true of me, it wasn’t true of everyone and regardless, the bank was discriminating against me because I was a woman and possibly fertile.

When I was a child, my mother applied for a mortgage to buy the house we were renting. She was an export manager in a well-known quality shoe company, earning good money. Yet she was told she needed a male guarantor. That male guarantor did not have such a good job or earn as much but it was okay because he was male. And supposedly more trustworthy?

But it doesn’t happen now!

Does it happen now? Yes, I think it does. Not so overtly but it still goes on in so many ways because people grow up with prejudices.

WHY? Because they are the product of their upbringing. Where they live, country and area, what their parents and grandparents did workwise. How poor or well off they were, whether life was a struggle or easy. Even what they believed about the world, other people and even religion.

Workplaces still discriminate on the basis of previous workers very often. Say they have a young man or woman of a particular age, say early 20’s. If they were lazy, always on their phone, arrived late, left early etc, without realising it themselves, they would avoid hiring the person of that gender and age, however good they might seem.

What does that matter to you?the past

We may think we are modern free-thinking people but our views are still coloured by the past. We picked up beliefs from the adults around us growing up, family, teachers, friends and even acquaintances. Those beliefs of theirs were picked up the same way.

When an election was looming once, one of my daughters said, “We are Conservative/Labour/Liberal because you are”. Immediately, I said  “No, it doesn’t work like that. You have to read about all the different parties and what they will or won’t do, then make up your own mind”. I told them the same about religion. If they wanted to be part of a religion, then research all the different ones to see what they were drawn to.

As a child, I wasn’t preached to about religion or politics despite my parent’s own beliefs. I did grow up believing women were better than men because of the comment’s my mother often made. Also, the fact that she was a manager in an era when women were considered to do well if they became a Personal Assistant. Lofty heights indeed.

Everything is different now

No, it’s not. No one is born discriminating against another person. A baby doesn’t discriminate. Watch a group of toddlers playing, they don’t label other children, they just play together.

We discriminate against ourselves. How often do you think you can’t have your own business? You probably heard “People like us can’t do things like that” Whether “that” is a better job, your own business, going to university, having a big house or a brand new car or even regular holidays a year.

Many many people believe they cannot aspire to be and do better. But I am telling you, They are WRONG!

YOU are NOT Your Past!let you past make you better not bitter

Well okay, you are a product of your past.  A mix of all the family that went before with beliefs and habits that come from everyone you have ever known up till now.

Is it fixed in stone? NO!

You are free to choose your own path. You are free to choose what you do and where you go.

Many never move away from the area they grew up in. Many more follow similar paths to their parents. Grow up, get a job, buy or rent a house, have a family, watch them grow up, stay in the same job till retirement. Leave work and continue to do what you always did, except working, until you die!

Sound a bit harsh? Think about it though, that path is true for a lot of people.

Do YOU want more?

Yes? Me too.

Stop caring what other people say. They don’t matter, YOU do! This is your life, do you want to live or exist? How about being happy? Doing work you love and living life on your own terms IS Happiness.

Every time you feel doubt, tell yourself: “I CAN DO THIS”.

You want to start an online business but are worried about failing? How about thinking ‘SUCCESS’ thoughts.

You don’t have to jump in with both feet, throwing caution to the winds. Why not start it alongside your job? To build a solid business online that will keep growing does take time. It won’t happen overnight.

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YOU can do it. Many have grown their dreams beyond the sky. There is no limit to what you can do and achieve. Once you truly understand and take that on board you will realise that you can be and do anything you want to.

The only limitations are in your mind. They are learned over many years but you can get rid of them. Learn to recognise when you hold back, when you doubt. Note your thoughts, think back to when you used to hear those words.

Tell yourself: “That is NOT me. They are not MY words.” Replace them with “I can and will do this”. Or “I can do anything I choose and be successful.” Anything along those lines is good. Choose words and phrases that uplift and motivate you.

Conclusion

You don’t have to break the glass ceiling because there was never one there in the first place. What you do have to break free of is the limits you have in your head. Being creative can often help with that as it sets your mind free. Time spent being creative is never wasted.

I always told my daughters when they were young that they could be anything they wanted to be. They just had to be prepared to work hard to get to there. I always wanted them to know that they had the ability, if they chose to use it.

That holds true for all of us!

If your imagination can dream it, then you can do it!

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What Is a Winning Mindset

What is a winning mindset

Mindset has become a hot topic for those in the know. It appears in Personal Development and Self Help books and courses frequently. But what is a winning mindset?

Google  says:

  • People with winning mindset believe that they can achieve their dream life. It takes courage to believe and once you started believing in your dreams, no one can stop you from achieving it. Successful people believe while other people are doubting. As it is said, “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will”.

The Importance Of A Winning Mindset

Most people do not have a winning mindset. They are content to let life take them in whatever direction it decides and stay firmly within their comfort zone.

But are they really content with this?

Invariably the answer is no. They will talk about starting a business of one sort or another, maybe even do a little research but it stays as a ‘maybe some day’. There are always a myriad of reasons not to do it.chnge your mindset change your life

But those people don’t really want to make the effort required. They prefer to be busy watching programs or films on TV, spending time on social media or even sitting around wishing they had a better lifestyle.

If you want a better life, then you work on that mindset as much as you work towards your goals. A winning mindset is more than half the battle when you want to achieve success.

The scions of industry didn’t say “I must watch this week’s episode of ….. ” anything! Or “I will start that next week” “I will begin tomorrow” or any other excuse. They got started and worked hard.

The Traits Of A Winning Mindset

The best way to develop a winning mindset is to understand and emulate the traits that a person with a winning mindset possesses. Successful people all have similar traits that enable them to realise their goals and never hand over even when the going gets really rough. They know that mindset matters.
Lets look at the commonest traits of people with a winning mindset. You can compare these traits with your own and develop and improve any that you are lacking.

Action

Most people want everything handed to them on a plate. They believe that they’re simply entitled to the great things in life and that they don’t want to place any effort in to urge them. This is why numerous people are in massive debt because they use their credit cards to urge what they need immediately .action. What is a winning mindset
With a winning mindset you will know that this is not the way to do things. You need an idea and need to take massive action to realize your dreams. Taking action on a day to day towards your goals will bring you the success that you simply crave. And then it’ll be time to form your next dream come true.

Make a Start 

You have the idea and then immediately get started. You know that time is a very precious commodity and there’s no better time to start out than immediately. Also, you know that starting a specific project enables you to create momentum which will help you to finish the project.
You don’t wait around for anyone or anything else to make a start. You don’t spend years planning, refining, researching and doing more planning. That is for dreamers, they don’t tend to ever get anything off the ground, it all stays on paper and is something to talk about doing, one day.

Nope, that winning mindset has you moving towards those goals from day 1.

Prioritising

You can’t do everything at once. People with winning mindsets often have a number of ideas and things that they want to achieve. But they know that they have to prioritise so as to use their time most efficiently.
So write down an inventory of things that you simply want to realize then prioritize them. Is there something on the list that’s causing tons of stress for you? If there is then tackle this first. Next pick something easy to work on. The reason for selecting something easy instead of something difficult is that it’ll build momentum.

Focus

It is extremely easy to urge distracted in today’s world. Most people have social media accounts and their phones are constantly alerting them to an update.Focus

People with winning mindsets specialise in what must be done and are rarely distracted. Distractions cause procrastination which you would like to avoid in the least costs.
Some distractions are necessary. So if you’ve got been distracted for a crucial reason then you would like to refocus on your task. Any time that you simply lose focus just refocus again and obtain back to it.

Committed to learning

You will not only want,  you will have a need, to learn something new each day. Your education didn’t stop when you left school or college. Nor did it stop once you learned the way to do your job efficiently. You are a life learner and discovering new things is one of your strong suits.

You constantly search out new knowledge that will keep you moving forwards to reach and surpass your goals.

Challenges

You are always striving to improve yourself.

Constantly pushing at the boundaries of your comfort zone and are never satisfied that you have done enough. Most people are afraid to try to do things that they need never done before. With a winning mindset though, you relish the challenge of new things and actively seek out more challenges.

Positive

You see the glass half full rather than half empty. There are opportunities all around you and you grab them with both hands. You take full responsibility for your life and never blame anyone else for where you’re today.positive mindset

Your outlook is always positive and you believe in yourself and your future.

Persistence

Persistence means never giving up. If your world is crumbling around you then you keep right on going.

When you give up you send the wrong signals to your subconscious mind. Continuing to move forward in the face of adversity sends the proper signals. It says you aren’t giving up or even slowing down, that you will power through regardless. Work on your persistence all the time.

Review

When you have an excellent idea it’s natural that you simply are going to be very excited and need to require massive action to get things going. This is fine but at some stage you need to ensure that things are moving in the proper direction. It is pointless to stay on a path that leads to a dead end.

Review your progress regularly in order to make any necessary adjustments if needed.

Organisation

Are you organised? Do you know where things are on your computer and in your home? Is your desk organised, does everything have a place so that you can reach out at any time and put your hand on what you need?

In the long run, being organised saves a lot of time and effort. It’s pointless to spend half your time looking for files or folders when having everything in it’s proper place for when they are required, can make life so much easier.

Quitting

That winning mindset drives you forward all the time. However many obstacles rise up in your way, despite exhaustion and anything else that tries to stop you, you keep going. Quitting is never an option! If it briefly rears it’s head, it is dismissed almost instantly because you know you will succeed.

What is a Winning Mindset?

So are you any the wiser? Do you feel that you have a winning mindset?

Do you agree with any or all of my points? Do you have any that you think should be included? What do you do to keep yourself focused and moving forwards?

Do we really know and understand a winning mindset. I think its probably a bit different for each person. I don’t believe it’s something a person thinks about on a daily basis either. They either have it or they don’t.

You can change your behaviour and make new habits but it does take time and effort. Many want to change but few actually continue to work on themselves.

Are you determined to be a success and prepared to make the extra effort involved?


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Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

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When you’re trying to change your life, there will be people that feel the need to get in your way. A few of them might actually believe they’re trying to help you, but they’re not. They want you to stay just the way you are. That way, they can feel comfortable about not improving themselves, too.

It’s frustrating to find out that few people are on your side, but it’s something that must be managed if you want to succeed. So lets find out why it happens

Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

Past failures:

They point out your past failures.

We’ve all failed numerous times in the past. Through them we have either discovered things we don’t want to do,  or have discovered ways NOT to do something.

Some people in your life will undoubtedly bring up those failures in an attempt to sabotage your efforts. They will very likely have a list of everything you have ever tried.

The Guilt Trip

They will try to make you feel guilty. Guilt is another weapon in their arsenal.

You aren’t spending enough time with your family or friends is a common one.Guilt Trip. Why Others Try to Hold You Back From Success

You might also be told that you should be saving all the money for your child’s educational needs. To buy something for the house or put towards a bigger house/better car or anything

Distraction

They try to distract you with, lets go out to the cinema, a bar, a walk, to play sport or any other of the many time distractions. Come and watch a box set together, spend time with the children, go out for a drive to the beach, park or whatever.

But why would they do it in the first place? It doesn’t seem kind and supportive and it’s not. Though they might try to present it that way.

Mostly it’s because people fear change. They don’t want their life to change even if they are bored. They definitely don’t want to step outside their comfort zone and the fact that you do is seen as a threat.

Why people close to you try to sabotage your efforts:

They want to stay comfortable with their mediocrity. If you do something amazing, they have to deal with the fact that they have not. No one wants to feel like they’re losing the game of life. Rather than deal with their own fear, insecurity and laziness, it’s just easier and less work to hold you back.

Jealousy

While there are some people that are genuinely happy to see you achieve something great, win the lottery, or lose 50 pounds, there are even more that are jealous. They’ll try to stop you from being successful by chipping away at your self confidence and self esteem. A constant barrage of negative comments to wear you down and make you give up. Later this will be a failure to be thrown back at you should you want try again.

All this will be done under the guise of caring. Saving you from disappointment, from yet another failure, from getting over tired and all because they are trying to help.

This can become a very toxic relationship, especially if it’s done subtly so you aren’t aware of it for some time.

 People don’t like change

Your time is being taken up with something they aren’t a part of. It takes you away when they want the attention they are used to having.

Change for most people is threatening. If you change, it threatens the status quo. If you become something different, where does that leave them? They feel left out and insignificant.

They are scared that you will succeed and won’t want them anymore, that you will outgrow their affections.

It’s psychologically easier for them if you just stay the same.

What should you dodont give up.

Not give up.

Keep explaining that it for a better future for you all, if it’s your other half or even your children trying to hold you back.

The main solution is to commit to being successful in spite of the objections of others. You might want to consider removing the worst offenders from your life. Life is hard enough without having your own friends and family trying to make it even harder.

If they are your nearest and dearest and you can’t and don’t want remove them from your life, then plan your time well to give them enough time too. Try to explain what you are doing if they show any interest.

Moving Forward

Commit to your goals for the right reason. Impressing others is a shallow reason for doing something and unlikely to lead to lasting success. Do it for yourself.

Think hard about your reasons and discover your WHY! Having a why that is big enough will keep you going regardless of the people trying to stop you. Regardless of the tiredness from learning so much and working so hard. It will help you reach your goals.

Consider keeping your biggest goals to yourself. You will receive less resistance from others and they won’t find it quite scary.

Choose what’s best for your life and do it! You don’t need the approval of others.


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