You probably already know this deep down.
You want to start a business but it just doesn’t seem to happen. So what has been preventing you from doing that?
Wouldn’t it be good to release your fears that are holding you back?
What are those Fears?
1) It’s hard work
and so much easier and more satisfying to daydream about how it could/should/will than actually making a start and doing the work. We’ll discuss how to stay motivated and stick at your goals even when the going gets tough. Then there’s the matter of feeling it’s not the right time: you procrastinate instead of looking for other work. This just needs inspiration to get you moving and revved up ready to go.
2) You’re afraid
This is very common and it condemns so many of us to a dull and unexciting lifestyle. We fear taking that leap and putting ourselves out there. It’s easier to imagine ourselves as very successful, pretending we will get around to it, rather than actually putting ourselves out there and risk having it all go horribly wrong. Fear of failure looms large at such times and we tend to procrastinate.
But if you want to be successful then you can’t continue to procrastinate you have to take the plunge!
Are You Procrastinating?
Some examples of procrastinating include:
- Spending ages researching, reading and taking courses on the topic instead of just getting stuck in. Continually needing more information to complete the plans to start. Working and reworking those business plans.
- There is nothing wrong with being thorough and getting it all laid out as much as possible but there comes a time when you need to make a start.
Working on projects and not completing them
- You continually work on projects, spending a lot of time on each one but none get finished. Each time you get a new idea, the previous one is abandoned as not viable.
- You just can’t somehow make it look really good.
- Perfectionism is often just a delay tactic. Assess yourself!
Claiming the time isn’t right
- We touched on this briefly but just to recap: the time is never right. You’re not traveling now because money isn’t good? Wait and save up some money – but by then you’ll probably be at an exciting point in your career and not want to take a break. Then you’ll have a partner and not want to leave them. Then you’ll have a child. There is never a good time to start a relationship, to get married, to have children, to travel, to start a business. You do it anyway. And if you’re worried about what other people might say? Then follow the advice to ‘ask for forgiveness, not permission’. Do it and worry about the consequences later. If it really means that much to you, then it is really the only option you have.
Ignoring your own dissatisfaction
- Do you know anyone in your life who clearly wants to be in a relationship and who ignores this fact by throwing themselves into their career? Every post on social media is about how excited they are about their new job, or about their travel. But you suspect that really, they just wish they had someone to go home to? In this case, they are trying to cover up one lacking area in their lives by focussing on the other. What about people who claim they are happy without pursuing their dream career because they have a family? But why not go for both? That way you can inspire your children and encourage them to follow their dreams.
- Don’t make this mistake because you need to be fulfilled in every area of your life if you’re going to be truly happy.
Fear Setting or release your fears
If you still can’t overcome these psychological blocks though, then it time to employ a technique known as ‘fear setting’ that was described by Tim Ferriss in his book: The Four Hour Workweek.
The idea here is simple:
You are going to write down all of the things holding you back and all of the things you’re afraid of and then you’re going to present counter arguments, contingency plans and more to remove those fears. So take a moment to think about your goals and dreams and then write down all of the things that you want to accomplish. Write those goals and the steps you need to take as we discussed in the last chapter and then think about taking that first step right now. What’s holding you back? What are your fears? Be honest and thorough and make sure to include every possible concern.
Let’s say you want to start your own business. Here are some possible fears and concerns:
You don’t have the money
So look for something you can start up for minimal cost and do it alongside your job until you have built it up enough to leave and become your own boss. Nowadays it is the most usual way that people start a business.
Your partner is against the idea
They might be afraid that you will be successful and it will change you. Or they fear you won’t have enough time for them and your family and friends. Talking it through in depth and setting out boundaries may well get them onside. Point out that it’s for the future of your family. That while you may have less time at first, the ultimate goal is to have more family time to do more together.
You don’t have enough time!
This is a very common one. You are afraid you might have to give up the things you enjoy. Playing games online, watching TV, drinking with your friends. Being able to laze about on a weekend or days off.
If you are serious about a business and want to start it up alongside a job, then something has to go. You have to weigh up what’s more important to you, such as long term goals against short term gain.
Long term Goals: Looking forward to being your own boss and being able to work the hours you choose. Earning enough money to pay your bills and living costs easily, with plenty left over to do all the things you dream of. You have a winning mindset.
Short term gain: Nothing changes, you still see your friends, watch TV, play games and do nothing when you please. BUT nothing changes. The future looks exactly the same as the present, tied to a job and living for time off/weekends.
Your business might fail
This is true it might. What’s the worst that can happen? You have wasted a lot of time and need to change direction. If this happens, it is unlikely you will already have given up your job as the business would not have been earning enough.
So therefore you will continue working for someone else for longer. However, the dream is still alive and a possibility if you continue putting in the work.
You might lose your Job
Now this is a strong possibility in today’s climate whether you are starting a business on the side or not. This just means that it is more important to have alternative plans. Because of the Pandemic and lockdowns in most countries many real world businesses have closed.
Right now business is booming online, many savvy people are jumping on the bandwagon and starting their own online business.
Affiliate marketing is popular and growing at a great rate as so many companies are moving online entirely.
When I started I was concerned that there might be many of us fighting to represent a few companies. Have to say, I was shocked at the sheer numbers of companies there are online and now even more have moved online, all needing affiliate marketers.
There are other alternatives too. Making and selling products yourself.
Dropshipping, where you advertise products on your website and once a customer orders you send that order on to the warehouse/company you are working with and they fulfil and post the order. Done and dusted!
Create graphics for people, build websites and look after them, write content for bloggers and the list goes on.
Just put “online work” or something similar into google and check it out.
What have you got to lose? Your fears and some time.
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If an “amazing opportunity” states: Up and running in 3 clicks/takes 5 minutes, so easy a newbie can do it and earning mega money, ie: thousands, within 2/12/24 hours, do NOT jump in.
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Is it easy? NO. Is it quick to earn? NO.
Like any business that is meant to last, you build a solid foundation, build out, diversify and keep growing. It might be 6 months before you start earning but more likely longer, it all depends upon how much time and effort you put into it. Pretty much like anything really. Time and effort equals progress.
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6 thoughts on “Release Your Fears”
This article really resonated with me, as what was listed are things that I go through when dealing with a lot of things. Especially the bit about procrastination, that has been one of my biggest flaws. I think what keeps a lot of us from doing what we want is the fear of failure. It seems easier and more comfortable to just stick with you’re normal routine, but sometimes you just have to take a chance and go do whatever it is you want. We only have so much time in our lives, we have to make the most of it. If we fail, at least we tried, but if we succeed, then it was well worth the effort.
Thank you for your comments.
I think we all procrastinate at times, it’s just learning to recognise that we are procrastinating and deal with it.
Fear of failure is one of the biggest ones and often the most entrenched having come from different directions at different ages. We just need to realise that we haven’t failed unless we give up. Up to that point we are just learning ways not to do something.
If you get the right mindset, that can help you overcome a lot of things that might hold you back too.
thank you for these awesome tips. Gaining a following on social media is also a great way to get more
sales. Post all your website content there as well
as other things relevent to your industry. Try to gain a following by
engaging with other pages like yours and basically draw their customers
to you as well. i will like to share this article with some of my friends
Thank you for the comments Lucas.
Glad you found the tips helpful. I too am a great advocate for social media and post all my blogs to each social media platform. A good size following is essential on some but on Pinterest it doesn’t matter how many followers you have.
Thank you for shring.
People who get scared because of some things that should be faced with courage should be encouraged and made to understand that their fears wouldn’t take them anywhere and I feel once you get rid of the last your fears of things, you tend to do better and that’s the best way to go about it all.
Thank you Justin, I agree. It is better to face your fears and is to be encouraged but it is a hard thing to do.
It is very true that once they are gone it is easier to reach the success you crave because those things that stopped you are gone.
Thank you for commenting.